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The Grieving Cycle and relationship break down
When a relationship breaks down one party leaves and wants to separate. The person who is left can feel angry, abandoned, a high level of anxiety, hurt and a sense of loss. These feelings are similar to those we experience during bereavement and the separation and divorce process can be very like the grieving cycle. It is intense – love turns into anger, anger into sadness and despair. Deeply hurt, we lash out, get a solicitor, apply to the courts and try to hurt the one who hurt us. The result is usually emotionally and financially catastrophic. In discussing death, Dr Kübler-Ross identified stages of grief that can be aligned to the emotions experienced during a relationship breakdown: shock, denial, hope, anger, denial, bargaining, depression,
Why Focus Mediation?
Mary Banham-Hall Lead Mediator
acceptance and moving on. Although both partners may be at different stages of adjusting to the separation, mediation can facilitate that adjustment and understanding and help the separating couple focus on the future. Understanding where you are in the cycle of emotions and that you will recover helps a lot. Mediation is a humane way of sorting everything out, in a problem solving way, without becoming opponents in a fight. Our experienced specialist mediation team are proud to be mediation experts.
c We are accredited experts, dedicated to mediation
c We use experienced lawyer mediators for financial cases c We have specialist mediators who can see your children c We offer legal aid if you qualify financially
Most people just want to sort things out and we facilitate that at a modest cost which you share. Visit our website for more information www.focus-mediation.co.uk or call us on 01908 410509
Divorce or Separation Looming?
Are you worried about a drawn-out court battle? Want to start afresh as soon as possible?
Try Mediation. It’s a quicker, more cost effective way of reaching agreement compared to the legal route. Focus Mediation lets you:
• Take control of costs (with our transparent pricing)
• Make informed decisions (we provide objective legal information) • Move on with your life (usually agreement is reached within 2-5
one and a half hour sessions)
Legal Aid is still available for family mediation, so your assessment is FREE if either of you qualifies.
Only £100 plus VAT for an individual assessment or £150 plus VAT for both of you for a joint assessment.
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